Why Parents Should Embrace the Pain of Discipline for Their Children’s Future Success
Dear Parents, Do Not Prevent Your Children From Going Through the Pain of Discipline
Dear Parents,
As an educator, I have observed the effects of parenting styles on children’s development, and it is concerning how certain practices might impact their future.
Current Trends:
- Many eight-year-olds avoid basic chores like making their beds.
- Some ten-year-olds rely on maids or “caring mums” for tasks such as clearing the table or washing dishes.
- Drivers often carry children’s bags, and children may see this as normal rather than learning responsibility.
- Manual tasks like laundry are increasingly handled by others, with children not engaging in these activities.
- Children often wake up to watch TV and are allowed to stay up late, while they are told not to read late at night.
Consequences:
- There is a growing trend where children, despite being in expensive schools, lack motivation and discipline, leading to poor academic results.
- Teenagers may be unable to cook simple meals or handle daily responsibilities due to a lack of practical experience.
- Some children resort to cheating in exams, with parents sometimes bribing teachers or seeking unethical shortcuts.
- Disrespectful behavior towards adults is often overlooked, with excuses made for such conduct.
The Impact of Overindulgence: When parents prevent their children from facing responsibilities and challenges, they inadvertently set them up for regret. There are two pains in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. By avoiding discipline, parents are preparing their children for future disappointments.
Parental Reflection:
- Consider if securing jobs or businesses for your children without instilling discipline is truly beneficial. Would a lack of responsibility and poor work ethic be acceptable in your company?
- Reflect on how past generations, who combined work with schooling, produced well-rounded individuals.
Proverbs and Wisdom:
- A Hausa proverb says, “Ka so naka, duniya ta ‘ki shi…” (“Favor your son and the world will reject him”).
- A Yoruba proverb states, “eni anwo ki wooran” (“Those who make news don’t watch news”).
Conclusion: Pampering and avoiding discipline will only lead to future regrets. It is essential to train your child in the way they should go, as this will help them grow into responsible and successful adults.
Remember, you will be accountable for how you raise your children.
Regards, A Concerned Parent
Have a good night and stay blessed